One thing I learned being in an environment that was mostly men (work and social) is that I could never win without adapting to the "Fuck It Attitude".
A problem arises (work, home, social, etc) and here is what often happens:
(this excludes, of course, delegatable problems - we all like to delegate when we can)
If a man cannot resolve it, or is not interested enough to resolve it, he will often choose to say "Fuck it" and walk away. No after thoughts, no nothing. It just lays on the floor being, well.. fucked.
Now a lot of the time, some woman who sees this will look at the poor fucked problem and say "Oh dear, you're all fucked by that mean ole guy, let me fix you up". If she can, well good. If not, then it is the guy's fault because he left it laying there all fucked.
Now if a woman has a problem, she consults her friends, her mom, her psychic, minister, congressman, all fellow-workers and strangers on the train in attempt to resolve this problem. We will analyze it, tear it apart, circulate it, mull it over, share it with gurus and sages, and sleep on it - whatever it takes to get the problem resolved. Sometime, its not even HER problem. Its just THERE (most likey, it was laying there all fucked by a previous guy who thought better of the effort).
That being said, I put a lot of interests in watching males do this and why they do this. My conclusion based on the evendence presented by proxy or by direct explaination is: priority. 1) its just not critical at the time the problem arises 2) hopefully if it becomes critical, there was a woman around who picked up the poor fucked little problem and found a resolution. (Phew!)
Woman: My ass is fat
I need to diet, go back to the gym, by some slimming undergarments and stand next to women who's rears look worse than mine.
Man: My ass is fat
Fuck it. (fuck it, if it becomes an issue, my wife will say something)
Woman: He isn't opening up to me.
I need to tell him how I feel at length, see if its me, if its him, is he having a bad week at work? does he still love me? does he need Viagra? Maybe I'll call a therapist and schedule a session or two...
Man: She keeps on about me opening up or something. Fuck it. She knows I love her. I need new tires, I wonder if Firestone has a sale this week. (she'll put me thru hell and forget about it in a week like last month)
So basically, I have learned to say "Fuck it" when I have a problem that isn't very interesting, doesn't directly concern me or is not high on my priority list. If someone picks it up, good. If not, it will be there when I get back (that is, if it truly is important - else it lays there all fucked and eventually gets stuck to someone's shoe and walks away).
>>My opinion as expressed, is namely my own (along with the other 7 voices I am currently listening to) and if you don't agree, at least laugh<<<