| So what shall the name be for these two? |
| Calvin and Hobbs? |
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11% |
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| Biff and Josh? |
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16% |
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| Biff and Raziel? |
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22% |
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| Nigoth the worm God and Fenrir Greyback? |
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0% |
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| Beavis and Butt-head?? |
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5% |
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| Balthazarr and gaspar? |
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5% |
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| sasquatch and yeti? |
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38% |
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sgt_steve
Joined: 18 Jan 2005
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Location: Michissippi |
| RedOrcaMoon wrote: |
| ... I did. I tried to explaine to her that people like me for who I am, if I lose the side of me that I love, think of who else we'll lose. We will lose the Red Orca Moon side of me and she is a huge michon fan. my mom doesnt understand that the RedorcaMoon chracter is an important aspect to me... |
I absolutely hear and understand you.
I was diagnosed late. Very late - age 42. I had what looked like a physical breakdown. Turned out it was a combination of too much stress, too little taking care of myself, and a couple of subtle illnesses. As a combination, the symptoms of all this confused everybody - you get six things wrong with you at once, and the package is hard to diagnose. So they gave me what the doctors call "every test known to man," including a trip to a psychiatrist. In 15 minutes he diagnosed me as ADD and stopped listening to anything I said. Given his inability to listen, I rejected the diagnosis but mentioned it to my general physician. She sent me to an ADD specialist who was once my GP. He seconded the diagnosis. I rejected it again, saying if I was ADD it was not possible for me to have lived the life I've lived.
He then hit me with the hammer. He pulled out a list of 15 or so things that an ADD person could do to manage their illness. I was already doing 14 of them. "And when you stop doing those things, you get in trouble, right?" He gave me a bunch of books to read, and I was convinced.
But... I didn't want to be a different person. I liked that guy who could change directions on a dime, read six books at once, carried around a big lab notebook with everything he was doing, etc, etc. My wife liked him too - in fact, that was the guy she'd married almost 20 years before.
So we took a very cautious course. We started with very small doses, and I monitored my behavior very closely. The goal wasn't to change things radically - it was to keep doing all the things I'd been doing, but with a bit bigger safety margin.
For the most part, it worked. Ten years later, it's still working. Oh, I've certainly changed - but at this point, it's hard to tell what's due to the drugs and what's due to another ten years of age and experience.
So know that you don't have to give up Molly/Red. But you don't have to run on the raggedy edge all the time, either. I reined things in a bit, and it's been great. Other people choose other strategies; see Witty Ticcy Ray as an example (story told much better in Oliver Sacks' book "The Man Who Mistook His Wife for a Hat.") But no matter what you choose, don't drift. Take the problem in your hands, and be the one in control. It's very cool to still be Red when and as the mood takes you. But you need to be able to take control from her when things get bad. Letting things drift won't do that. Work with your doctor, work with your Mom. If Mom isn't hearing you (and speaking as a parent, this is an area where it's hard to listen to your kids), enlist your doctor. If you convince the doctor that you want to hold onto Red as an essential part of yourself while keeping control of her, he might well become your ally in dealing with your mother. Go, talk to your doc. And put yourself in the drivers seat.
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